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Inspiring Quotes for Grief in Pregnancy

Written By
Jessalyn Ballerano
Certified Childbirth Educator & Doula

There is no one right way to grieve or experience pregnancy loss. Despite miscarriage impacting most families over time we sometimes fail to find the words that heal. We’ve collected some of our favorite miscarriage quotes that soothe the heart, offer peace to the mind, and otherwise inspire us to move through times of grief and the full complexity of being humans.

Looking for a comforting word? If you’ve experienced a miscarriage, or any type of loss, you may understand how complicated grief can feel, and that sometimes the right words can be as healing as touch. In an effort to help our customers and broader community feel more supported and capable in navigating difficult experiences, we’ve put together some of our favorite quotes on navigating grief, love, and all the spaces in between. You can also find more tips for supporting someone facing miscarriage here, or learn the facts about pregnancy loss here.

“We are broken, / And we will not be mended / Until we remember / That we are unbreakable.”

― Louise Diamond

“Everything lost is found again, / In a new form, In a  new way. / Everything hurt is healed again, / In a new life, In a new day.”

― From “Kore Chant: Spring and Fall Equinox," as written in “The Spiral Dance” by Starhawk.

“It’s not that motherhood is out of reach, it’s that it’s just out of reach. It’s not that motherhood didn’t happen, it’s that it almost did and, in fact, still could. The difference between the grief of infertility and other reasons for mourning - the loss of a spouse, for example - is in that promise of ‘just,’ in ‘almost,’ in ‘still could.”

― Alexandra Kimball, The Seed: Infertility is a Feminist Issue

“There is no right way to grieve; there is only your way to grieve and that is different for everyone.”

― Nathalie Himmelrich, Grieving Parents: Surviving Loss as a Couple

“Your heart stopped but my love for you did not.”

― Zoe Clark-Coates

“Your body is away from me,

but there is a window open

from my heart to yours.”

― Rumi

“Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes.

Because for those who love with heart and soul

there is no such thing as separation.”

― Rumi 

“There is no footprint too small to leave an imprint on this world.”

― Unknown

“Grief is like the ocean; it comes on waves ebbing and flowing. Sometimes the water is calm, and sometimes it is overwhelming. All we can do is learn to swim.”

— Vicki Harrison

“Because someone we love is in heaven, there’s a little bit of heaven in our home.”

— Unknown

“If our love was enough to save you, you would have lived forever.”

― Unknown

“There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”

— Maya Angelou

“A miscarriage is a natural and common event. All told, probably more women have lost a child from this world than haven’t. Most don’t mention it. But ask her sometime: how old would your child be now? And she’ll know.”

— Barbara Kingsolver, Animal Dreams

Jessalyn Ballerano
Certified Childbirth Educator & Doula
Jessalyn (she/her) is a Childbirth Educator and Doula serving families in the San Francisco Bay Area, nationwide, and in her new home of Eugene, Oregon. She started studying birth in 2010 as an anthropologist, and often brings a systemic approach to helping birthing people to understand their options, experiences and possibilities. She integrates evidence-based training and research with a holistic mindset and an activist’s passion for reproductive empowerment. Jessalyn serves on the board for the Oakland Better Birth Foundation, where birthworkers, birthing people, and care providers work together to end preventable maternal and infant mortality and address racial disparities in health care. Jessalyn is a CAPPA-Certified Childbirth Educator, SMC Full-Circle Doula.

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